Kink coaching · one to one · since 2016
KINK COACHING FOR MEN finding their way in.
One to one coaching in Berlin for men exploring kink for the first time, or already on the path and ready to go deeper. Conversational, honest, grounded in years inside the scene. Not therapy. Not a class.
Why this exists
Most men piece kink together alone.
There is a lot of support out there for some people entering kink, and very little for men who want to start with intention instead of guesswork. Most men piece it together alone: scattered forums, performance they mistake for practice, advice that is either too clinical or not serious at all.
Coaching is a way to skip the years of trial and error in the dark. To have someone who knows the terrain ask you the right questions, point you toward what is worth your time, and help you build a practice that is actually yours.
Is this you
This usually starts somewhere familiar.
If any of this sounds like you, you are exactly who this is for. You do not need to arrive with the right words, the right gear, or a clear plan. Arriving curious is enough.
What we work on together
Eight places to start. We follow what matters to you.
How it works
A steady, conversational approach. No script, no performance.
Sessions are conversational. We talk, we work through what you bring, sometimes we practice things out loud — like negotiating a scene or naming a limit. The work is yours. My role is to ask sharper questions and bring perspective from years inside the scene as a practitioner, a teacher, and part of the community.
The format
The path in
Discovery call
A free 20 minute call to see if this is a fit. No pressure, no commitment.
Intake
A short form that helps us start from where you actually are, not the basics.
First session
We begin. In person in Berlin, or online — whichever suits you.
Pricing
Clear numbers. No call required to find them out.
One 90 minute session. A way in without committing to more.
Three 90 minute sessions. Enough continuity for the work to actually move.
Six 90 minute sessions. For going deeper, at your own pace.
All prices include everything. The discovery call is free, always. Packs are valid for six months.
What this is not
Clear about the edges. It matters.
Who you'll work with
Roxu. Rope artist and kink educator.
I have been an active part of the kink and BDSM community since 2016, first as a practitioner, then as a teacher and community builder. I am a rope artist and educator, half of Ena & Roxu, and I have taught and performed across Europe — Germany, Italy, Denmark, Finland, Spain, Belgium, the Netherlands, Norway, the UK, Romania.
What I bring to coaching is that lived experience as much as the teaching: switching, negotiation, power dynamics, sensory play, role play, and the long, unglamorous work of learning how this actually fits into a life. I work from the real values of the community, not a sanitized or sensational version of them.
FAQ
The usual questions, answered straight.
No. This is coaching: educational and exploratory. I am not a therapist and I do not treat clinical conditions. If something comes up that needs professional therapeutic support, I will tell you and point you toward someone who can help.
The work is shaped primarily around men's experience, because that is where I see the biggest gap in support. If you are not a man but the approach fits what you are looking for, you are welcome to book a discovery call.
No. A lot of the people I work with are starting from zero. Others have been around for a while and want a sparring partner for the next phase. Both are welcome.
Yes. What is said in session stays in session, within the clear legal and ethical limits set out in the coaching agreement.
In person in Berlin is the main format. Online is available if you are elsewhere or it suits you better.
No. Coaching is conversational. Practical hands-on tuition is a separate offering with its own frame.
A single 90 minute session is 120 €. A pack of three is 320 €, a pack of six is 600 €. The discovery call is free. Full details above, under Pricing.
Book a free discovery call below. We talk, and decide together whether to continue. No pressure, no obligation.
Start here
Begin with a conversation.
The first step is a free, no pressure conversation. We talk about where you are and what you are looking for, and figure out together whether this is a fit.